People come to therapy for lots of reasons. Often, it’s because they’ve hit a point in life where they realise that despite their best efforts, things just haven’t panned out the way they expected or wanted and they’re wondering whether there is more to life. Sometimes it’s because a partner has left them or betrayedContinue reading “When I’ve done everything ‘right’ and I’ve always tried my best, why hasn’t life turned out the way I wanted it to?”
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The future of therapy practice.
One for the professionals among us. I love it when something pops into my consciousness that really makes me stop and reflect. For quite a while now, through the process of posting these blogs I have been working hard to communicate exactly what we do here at Dialogues and why. Sometimes successfully and sometimes not!Continue reading “The future of therapy practice.”
So how do you know if you’re ‘doing’ therapy right (and what may be going on in your therapist’s head when you ask that question?)
(5-minute read) This is a question I get asked sometimes by clients and I am really glad. It opens up the opportunity for me to enquire with the client about what’s going on for them. And what I mean by that is that I am interested in what’s driving that question. “But what if it’sContinue reading “So how do you know if you’re ‘doing’ therapy right (and what may be going on in your therapist’s head when you ask that question?)”
Ready for a Spring clean for your mind?
Around this time of year, we can begin to lose the momentum we had at the start of the year and motivation for wellness goals begins to wane. Our single session therapy is popular at this time of the year because it can offer new insight, a refreshing focus on what you want to achieveContinue reading “Ready for a Spring clean for your mind?”
Creating closure for yourself
People come to therapy for all sorts of reasons and I suppose this time of year makes me think about all the folks out there beginning 2026 in a new place, or a place they hadn’t envisaged. I’ve spoken recently here about the pain of endings and loss and feelings of grief because life hasContinue reading “Creating closure for yourself”
Grief and loss
Sometimes people come to therapy because life has changed in a way that was unexpected, resulting in a feeling of being lost, out of sorts and out of control. Maybe you’re facing a situation and a future you hadn’t envisaged. It’s understandable that this would be challenging. Maybe the changes you’ve gone through mean thatContinue reading “Grief and loss”
Erskine (1999) 8 relational needs for healthy relationships.
Many of us go into relationships focussing on the potential of the other person to provide what we need. When we first learn to notice where the wounds are in ourselves or as I prefer to refer to it, the areas of need and sensitivity, we can first learn to support ourselves and then findContinue reading “Erskine (1999) 8 relational needs for healthy relationships.”
Relationship dynamics:
Moving out of Victim and into Vulnerable with the help of the Winner’s Triangle (Choy, 1990) The ability to shift away from high emotion and into self-regulation in relationship dynamics is a key determinant in whether a relationship is going to be successful or not. It’s natural and normal in relationships between people that thereContinue reading “Relationship dynamics:”
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