I’m new to tech….

I’m amazed I have managed to publish this. I’m kind of amazed anyone is reading this.

I want to use this section of the website to communicate more about the service and what we have to offer. What we think, What we stand for, What’s important to us and that sort of thing. I’ll post links to interesting articles as often as I can. Whether you’re a therapist, counsellor, psychotherapist or client interested in psychoeducation, you might find it interesting to follow along.

My particular areas of interest/ expertise are trauma and working with attachment issues.

Let me know what you think by offering feedback either via email or social media and if you’re also a counsellor or therapist, let me know what you’re up to. I am always interested to connect with others- there’s so much learning to be done and we can learn so much from each other.

I read this article the other day. I am interested in negative masculinity and the impact this has on men and their partners and children.

• http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201502/12-ways-spot-misogynist

– Maya Angelou

It’s true. Generally, I am a believer in the ethos that if something ceases to make me happy (or at least content) then I have the right and the responsibility to do something about it. After all, life Is for living isn’t it? If I can’t quite manage happy, I am at least allowed to be content, aren’t I?

That might mean making a decision to say ‘NO’, making a decision to say ‘YES’ or deviating from a well trodden path.

Occasionally, when we have tried everything or when there truly is no way around, the only option left to us it to change our outlook or our mindset. Change how we view the situation. Counselling can help with this.

Counselling can help us to sort through our feelings and thoughts, explore possibilities and it gives space to ruminate on outcomes and ponder ‘what ifs’. We can’t always do that with the people in our lives because sometimes the decisions we make affect them too and cause change in their lives (there’s a ripple effect) and not everyone appreciates that. People also like to give advice and it’s not always advice that we need- more of a sounding board. IT’s also often biased advice based on their perspective, experience and knowledge of how they see us.

It’s best when we are able to make decisions for ourselves based on what we want and who we are, uninfluenced by anyone else’s agenda. Counselling offers the space to say exactly how we feel and gives the opportunity to feel the freedom of truly being ourselves- if we are brave enough to go there. (That’s one reason why finding the right counsellor is important).

It is only when we have taken the time to explore our thoughts and feelings, that we can look at a situation or circumstance objectively and decide to find the freedom in changing how we view it.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”- Anais Nin