– Maya Angelou
It’s true. Generally, I am a believer in the ethos that if something ceases to make me happy (or at least content) then I have the right and the responsibility to do something about it. After all, life Is for living isn’t it? If I can’t quite manage happy, I am at least allowed to be content, aren’t I?
That might mean making a decision to say ‘NO’, making a decision to say ‘YES’ or deviating from a well trodden path.
Occasionally, when we have tried everything or when there truly is no way around, the only option left to us it to change our outlook or our mindset. Change how we view the situation. Counselling can help with this.
Counselling can help us to sort through our feelings and thoughts, explore possibilities and it gives space to ruminate on outcomes and ponder ‘what ifs’. We can’t always do that with the people in our lives because sometimes the decisions we make affect them too and cause change in their lives (there’s a ripple effect) and not everyone appreciates that. People also like to give advice and it’s not always advice that we need- more of a sounding board. IT’s also often biased advice based on their perspective, experience and knowledge of how they see us.
It’s best when we are able to make decisions for ourselves based on what we want and who we are, uninfluenced by anyone else’s agenda. Counselling offers the space to say exactly how we feel and gives the opportunity to feel the freedom of truly being ourselves- if we are brave enough to go there. (That’s one reason why finding the right counsellor is important).
It is only when we have taken the time to explore our thoughts and feelings, that we can look at a situation or circumstance objectively and decide to find the freedom in changing how we view it.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”- Anais Nin